2000-12-14-Soul Transformation
Marin #3
Contents
1Heading
1Topic: Soul Transformation
2Group: Marin TeaM
2Facilitators
1Teacher: Machiventa, Welmek
2TR: Donna D’Ingillo
3Session
1Opening
2Lessson
2.1Transformation
3Dialogue
3.1Friendship
3.2Listening
3.3Immunity, Stillness
4Closing
Heading
Topic: Soul Transformation
Group: Marin TeaM
Facilitators
Teacher: Machiventa, Welmek
TR: Donna D’Ingillo
Session
Opening
Machiventa. This is Machiventa Melchizedek. Good evening. I wish to acknowledge this group. This is my first visit, and I am very pleased to see you here this evening, and am very pleased at your diligence. You are embarked on a journey of conscious participation as a student in the universe. We applaud your efforts and we wish to offer our support to you in any way we can make your striving more enjoyable and more fruitful.
Tonight I will turn your lesson over to your teacher, Welmek , who is once again with you this evening, but, I did want to offer my words of greeting and exhortation to continue your efforts, continue your good work. In the days to come, you may sense a quickening, a steady pace of growth. This is very good. It means several things. It means that you are becoming more sensitive to the spiritual current that is strengthening within you. It means that the spiritual circuitry that surrounds you is being more activated and you are able to tap increasingly more refined levels of spiritual insight and guidance.
This is a time of great joy. Not only because it is your holiday season, but because it is the start of a new millennium; a new millennium of advancement, a new time of cultural, spiritual, moral development on Urantia. And while we joyfully watch as these events unfold, we must sit back and watch as you, our beloved brother and sister students, begin to do the work for which you have been trained and for which you wish to participate. So as you begin your holiday, reflect for a moment on the life of the Master, on the bestowal of Christ Michael on Urantia and what his ministry means to this planet and to each one of you. Draw his life into your hearts, let his hands and heart become the fire to fuel your passion. Good evening.
Lessson
Transformation
Welmek: Greetings, my friends, this is your friend and teacher Welmek. I am so very glad to be back once again for our lessons. I cherish the time that I spend with you. It is one of the highlights of my week, and believe me, I have a very good week. Tonight, I will offer this lesson on transformation, your soul transformation. We have talked about change, change at the material level and change at the mental level. But now I would like to address the true level of change which is at the spiritual level, and this is the nature of transformation. Take a moment of reflection. Go within. Connect with your spirit. Ask your spirit to define to you what is the essence of transformation. I will pause and give you a few moments to do this and when you feel you have an answer you wish to share, then please do so.
Dialogue
(Ed note: Student comments and questions all paraphrased)
Student: Transformation is releasing that which isn’t mine truly or isn’t real, and embracing innate consciousness or what feels to be more true, and releasing the things that aren’t truly mine or real or me.
Student: I feel something continuing, and I see something like a fountain bursting out of nowhere, it’s something new or something that has never been before. As these two combine, the overall thing even though there’s something continuing, because there’s something new, the overall thing is slowly being transformed.
Student: Feeling and experiencing that which I once visualized and wanted to become a reality.
Welmek: Well, my friends, I will say that you have certainly struck a chord of understanding transformation. For each of you has defined it in a way that is uniquely yours, and part of the way you strive to incorporate this into your life. What I would like is to pose this question to you now. How is it that you transform? What is it that you do to transform? Your answers were quite indicative of what transformation is. It is a yielding of the old ways of the evolutionary experiential nature to the greater understanding of the divine ways and the divine will. This knowing, this striving, is an innate sensing for it is your spirit which is propelling and leading you into this new understanding. Sometimes you feel it as an uprush where the information and flow of knowledge speed you along this course and you know there is no turning back for it is the right and true path; the path that is truly good and right for you to be on.
But how, my friends, do you deepen this; how do you stay in this flow, how do you stay connected, how do you embrace this transformation process more fully? When we address change at the material level, we talked about the fluctuating nature of the physical world and how there were changes occurring all the time. Some of these were changes that you did not appreciate and embrace or even want to experience because they were distasteful or unpleasant to you. So you grew an aversion to change. So how do you overcome this aversion to change and begin to see the transformation process as not something to avoid but something to fully accept and totally immerse yourselves in? What is the distinction between change and transformation? Please take a moment to go within and ask your spirit to help you understand this subtle distinction, and please share your answers if you feel so inclined.
Student: I’m not sure if I really know the difference, except that what I feel is that change is something that may happen to me on a more material level whereas transformation happens more on an energetic or spiritual level that coincides or reflects the material change.
Student: I think that change is different for me than transformation. Change sounds like you’re not aware of the continuity, the difference before and after. It feels like two separate things…change from one thing to another. But transformation feels more like having a part of you that is an observer of both sides and that make the continuity of the prior and the latter is more attune. It’s like you tune the radio of your being to a higher intuition place of wisdom or allow you to stay in a higher state of consciousness.
Student: That ties with the feeling of continuity…the part that is continuing from the past. Then there’s this part of each moment, this wellspring from the Unqualified Absolute that’s never been before. This is the totally limitless capacity of the Father and universe to not repeat itself ever. hat transforms is the continuing, the overall thing is slowing growing. Transformation is synonymous to growth. As long you can keep growing you are welcoming and embracing and enjoying the change.
Welmek: I would summarize your answers by stating that transformation is more of an inner process that is happening in the internal environment of who you are becoming, who you evolving toward in your personality integration and harmonization. Change is a component of what happens in your outer world created by you or manufactured by the outside environment. Do you see the distinction? Transformation occurs at the deepest level of your experiential awareness which is catalyzed by your decisions and desires to becoming increasing more Father-like. That is, becoming more loving, tolerant, compassionate, forgiving, understanding, and merciful; choosing to react in these kinds of ways when you are confronted by all different kinds of circumstances in your daily external environment.
Transformation also occurs internally when you seek truth, when you seek greater enlightenment, greater knowledge of the expansive nature of universe reality in which we are all privileged to live. When you combine these tracks, as it were, of manifesting the fruits of the spirit in your behavior and in your truth quest, they gradually yield and lead the soul to new levels of experiential realization that you will see in your outward behavior and environment by the experiences you have and how you react to all kinds of situations you are in. And so, when you are put into negative circumstances, when there is an occurrence in your life that happens that is not to your liking, then you get to see how it is you behave that is more reflective of the divine Father-like qualities. As you do this, as you become more increasingly Father-like, this transformation of your personality from your animal nature to your spirit nature grows stronger.
You will always be confronted with change at the material level. As we have said before, this is a highly unstable planet. You will, for many years of your life continuing as you live your material life, be confronted with change. However, your adjustment to change is conditioned by your ability to transform your inner life according to the yielding of your spirit. I will pause now and ask if you have questions.
Student: I find that I can reach states of calmness, happiness and awareness under favorable conditions, and am wondering if there are some keys that can be mentioned to achieving that under more adverse conditions. I’m finding that very difficult to do.
Welmek: It is interesting that you use the word key. Keys to finding ways to achieve this because this is “key” in allowing the transformation process to occur. As you grow, you may find your life circumstances become more challenging because this will be an opportunity for you to present how well you have mastered the internal lessons you have come to learned. Each time you are in an increasingly more challenging circumstance, there is a shift or choice to make. Do I revert to my usual familiar patterns of responding or is there perhaps a better way to which I can respond?
What are the feelings resident in you when you are in this state of peace? If you can for a moment pause when you are in this situation and reconstruct the feelings you experience when you are in this peaceful state, they will help to steady and fortify you so that your behavior can become more positive. Now, how successful will you achieve this the first time? You may only meet with limited success as you evaluate how you reacted to the circumstance after its conclusion. But it is a continuum, and the more you can remember to connect with those feelings each time you are in challenging circumstance, the more you begin to develop a positive response behavior, and the more you disconnect with the familiar perhaps more negative behavior response. Each time you can consciously remember to do this you will be significantly improving your ability to stay focused and to stay in that peaceful state that allows the transformation process to accrue more gradually.
Student: In situation with old friends, torn between two dynamics: one of being a friend and sympathizing with their situations or staying aloof and offering guidance to help them.
Welmek: Are you clear in your intention of how you want to relate to these individuals?
Friendship
Student: Not entirely. I don’t know how to relate, I want to help them instead of getting into a co-dependent relationship. The relationships are growing, but I’m torn. I want to know how to be a true friend.
Welmek: What is a true friend? This is a very good question that you have raised this evening; what is a true friend? I heard many desires in your answers, many mixed intentions and so it does not appear that you are quite clear in your understanding of what a true friend really is for there were mixed motives. I am not chastising you, but I would like you to see some of the elements of what you asked in your question. When you desire to be of service to someone, where do your own needs sit? Think about this. A true friend is someone who desires to be of assistance to the individual at their level of need. It is not self-serving, it is not self-seeking. It is only the desire to help that individual at whatever level or need they have. Sometimes it will be a very tangible physical need of offering a meal or shelter. Sometimes it will be a friendly ear to listen, and sometimes it will reach the true spiritual level where there is communion between spirit to spirit and you have that deep soulful exchange that allows the love to flow through.
But no matter what level the exchange is if it is your sincere desire to help the person divorced from your feeling of what it is you would like to see happen or what is it of your own self that you need gratified, then you are offering your love and it will be felt at some level in this individual. To be a true friend, to be truly friendly, is to put what you think that person needs aside or what you think you would like to offer them and truly connect to what it is they need. Think about the times in your life when you felt that deep connection with someone. What was the exchange like? What was your encounter all about? You connected at a level did you not? You felt a certain kinship. And so this kinship is fostered by your desire to help this person feel that they are important, they are worthy and loved. You do this by responding to them at they level need you to respond.
You do not need to worry that your behavior will become, as you say, co-dependent or if you will be taken advantage of. That is not your concern. For if it is your concern, then you are at some level worrying about what you are offering this person is going to cost you. True friendship is freely given. It is a loving open exchange. So to be of service to any of your brothers and sisters, is to begin to see them as this very young child who is full of love and light , but yet it very small and very needy. Before you enter into this exchange of desiring to help, take a few moments of reflection and ask your spirit to help you see the essence of the child of God within this person. Ask, how it is that I may truly help this individual? What is it that this person needs from me most that I can provide in this moment that will benefit this person? You are taking the emphasis of what you think you should provide as opposed to what this person truly needs. Does this help, my friend?
Student: Yes, I see I have to feel my way along. Sometimes what these people tell me they need is unhealthy and so I have to make that choice what is really healthy. I see that something needs to be done in the moment with some reflection and wisdom.
Welmek: Let me pose this question to you. If a ten year old child came to you and said, I want to learn to drive because this is what I need. What would your response be?
Student: I would help them learn to drive as much as possible consistent with safety, that they would not hurt themselves…like helping them to learn something like a go-cart. This is the situation to see someone my own age…I do not want to see them like a 10 year old child. I do not want to condescend to them in my own mind. Do I see them as a needy child or see them like equals….To see them as an equal not be judging but to be with them.
Welmek: I would suggest that you approach it from this perspective. If their behavior is such that you cannot relate to them as a peer, then it is wise to look at them as a child. But not in a way that is condescending or demeaning, but just simply accepting them for the state of mind or state of being that they are at the moment. This is not to say that you condone their behavior, this is not to say that you are treating them as a child. You are acknowledging within them that this is the state of being or state of maturity they have attained at this point in their life. Acceptance does not necessarily mean condescension. How you can distinguish between the two again is in your approach. It is your intention in wanting to relate to them as an adult.
But, is their behavior adult-like? And, even though they may be of a certain chronological age, what is their true emotional age? Connect with that. Be appreciative that they are doing the best they can with the circumstances they have. You do not know all of their life, you do not know all of their path, you do not know all of their soul growth. All you can see is the outward behavior. But it is incumbent upon you as a more spiritually developed person to begin to appreciate them at their level of ability. When you are in this conversation or engagement with them, take a moment to just sit with them and just breathe deeply. This may be difficult for some people to do, but if you can do this while they are speaking (tape turned)
Listening
Student: Thank you. Last night for an hour I just listened. I didn’t know if this helped or not. I hope it did good. The individual seemed to go down deeper into self-loathing, but I hoped my listening helped, but I don’t know.
Welmek: I would say to you, did you feel that what you were doing was of help…this listening?
Student: I’m not sure. This individual has trouble relating to people. If he has an audience, he will go on an endless revisiting every painful thing in his life. Sometimes he can turn it around and get some self humor, but other times he blames God or other people. When he does this he has no strength or have any will power to get out of the situation.
Welmek: But, what is your expectation? Is it your expectation that he is going to somehow magically transform his life or become a different person you think he should in listening to him? You must take off the expectation of what you think he should be and just allow him the experience. It is difficult to watch humans comport themselves at this level of self-degradation. I am not saying that this is healthy. It is not healthy, but this is his choice and it is not your path to decide how he should change.
What you provided to him was a valuable service because you gave him a place to talk about his frustrations as a human. You gave a sympathetic ear to listen to his agonies. You do not know what good this may have produced in him. You do not see that this may have given him an opportunity to listen to his whining himself. Perhaps he can hear his complaints and perhaps he can at some point become sick and tired of hearing himself go on and on and on at this level. People must find their level of discomfort from which they must rise. You cannot do this for them, it must be their choice. Some people will be very comfortable staying at this level for all of their lives.
What does this mean for you, a fellow brother in offering service? This means that you must look at them and accept them for who they are and make the decision if you wish to help them to connect with what they need in this moment. To appreciate the fact that they are in this experience to learn, just as all experiences are a teaching opportunity. This is very hard; I understand your dilemma of wanting to be of service and wanting to make this person’s life more comfortable or improve it somewhat. But at some level this person is comfortable or he would have changed his behavior. Do you see?
Student: Yes, but it is the hardest part to accept because I don’t want to ever accept it for myself. I see that this person does it to maintain the status quo, but that’s difficult to me because I see that he is suffering so much. I have to look at my own motivation here, and be very thankful that I am not in that situation.
Welmek: One more technique of connection. Anytime you enter an interchange with another person, at some level in your mind’s eye, see you and the other person in conversation. See this bond of love flow from our Creator from your heart to this other individual’s heart. From the Creator’s heart to yours into this other person and returning back to our Creator. Center yourself in this love energy, center yourself in this visualization. Speak from the heart and see where that leads.
Immunity, Stillness
Student: I’m also very challenged by a similar situation. This person is toxic and I don’t want to be around them.
Welmek: It is interesting that you use the word toxic. This denotes a certain level of illness. Just like any germ or disease would invade your system if your immunity is not strengthened, individuals can create this kind of situation at the emotional level. So what is it that you must do to strengthen your immunity at the physical level? You must take measures to keep your physical system healthy. You must eat properly and get enough rest and exercise and de-stress the body. You must avoid those problems, those germs, that can invade the body and create the disease.
So, what is it you must do at the spiritual level to ward off these emotional toxins? If your emotional immunity is not high enough to ward off the toxicity of another person, then you must make the choice of how you will respond. Will you avoid this individual because you do not feel strong enough or will you fortify yourself with a healthy dose of divine love? When you are in stillness this is the time for the Father to spoon-feed you his most wonderful of all medicine, unconditional love. Allow yourself a few moments of connection with this feeling of love. Fortify your spiritual immunity. Fortify it with a shot of understanding, a bandage of compassion. Swallow your vitamins of tolerance and patience and mercy and acceptance.
If your fortify your spiritual immunity with these medicines of the Father, then in time your immunity will grow. This toxic person will still be toxic, but the poisons they emit to you will have no effect in your body, you will be so immune and so strong that nothing they can do or say to you will effect you. So, while you are in this stage of building your spiritual immunity it will be your choice to decide how much you wish to enter this person’s sphere of influence. But each day fortify yourself with your spiritual immunization medicine and let that grow and strengthen you inside.
Each person is responsible for his or her own transformation. It is enough of your own work to transform yourself, you do not have to be concerned with the transformation of another individual. You only have to decide how much you wish to be around people who can affect you negatively. Or, if you do decide to be around them, to ask for help from above for the support they can accept from you. You do not know how much good your help can assist them in their own transformation process. Perhaps all you are doing is planting a seed, and each time you encounter them you are watering this seed with love, compassion, patience, and understanding. How long will this seed take to sprout and grow? It is only the Father who knows the answer. But do what you can each day to help and find ways that are comfortable to you that you can help them.
In this way you are transforming yourself, for you are learning what are the elements of service, what are the fruits of the spirit that I am growing in that I am exhibiting to my brothers and sisters. What are the insights and concepts that I am understanding that help me to be more successful in relating to other individuals at their level. You see, my friends, when you are in service you are in transformation yourself. So, I would say when you are in these encounters with your brothers and sisters, only ask that you grow more loving and more compassionate. The Father will do his work within them. He will water the seed you have planted with his love. He will water the seeds you are planting with your own hearts and minds with His love and mercy and grace.
Closing
Good evening, dear friends.
